Making Friends When You're Over 18

Goohilly, Cornwall by Olivia Bossert Making friends gets harder the older you get. When you're little, you could just walk (or woddle -- depends how stable you are on your feet at that point!) up to someone and tell them that they're wearing the same slippers as you (no joke, that's how I made my first friend at Primary school). The older you get, the harder it is, especially because I spend so much time at home on my own.

I'm naturally quite a shy person. I worry what people think about me, and I find it very difficult to walk into a room full of people that I don't know, and speak to a single person. I've always admired people who can strike up conversation with anybody; my Mum is so good at that! I just go quiet, and listen to what everyone else is saying. Not great when you're trying to make friends.

When I moved to Cornwall, I had to make new friends for the first time in my life. I'd never changed school between the age of 5-18, so I'd always had that stability. When I got here, it wasn't only a new culture, but I knew nobody. Thankfully, because it was University, we were all forced to mingle and work together, so I made a great group of friends, fairly fast.

Goohilly, Cornwall by Olivia BossertFast forward 4 years, and all my amazing university friends and I were graduating; off into the real world. Here was the catch though: I was staying in Cornwall, everyone else was off up to London. I was back at square one; knowing very few people. Tom and I were still a fairly new couple, and thankfully his friends were all lovely, so I quickly became close to them, and I still am. For quite a long time though, I really didn't see many people. I was fine, mind you, because I was working so hard on Atlas.

Now, I don't think I actively go out seeking friends; friendships just happen. Where have I made the majority of my closest friends? The internet. Controversial for some, maybe, but being the shy, quiet person that I am, reaching out to other "Internet Folk" has been the way I've made some of my closest friends throughout the years, and I don't regret that one bit. Another place has been the gym. I'm there so much, I've certainly made plenty of friends just by seeing someone there frequently.

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"But how on earth do you go about becoming friends with someone on the internet?" I hear you say. Well, it might sound silly, but just talk to them. Some people might say its cowardly to try to only make friends behind a computer screen, but most of the time, I've initially begun speaking to someone via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or their blog, and fairly quickly we're meeting up IRL (in real life) for a chat over a cup of tea. It's so much easier to work up the courage to start a conversation over the internet, because they're not seeing you go bright red or awkward!

Another way that I found making friends was the gym. Now, this isn't for everyone as I know that not everybody wants to be in a gym, and that's totally fine! But essentially what I'm getting at is: put yourself in some kind of social situation. It might be going to a local pottery class, or joining a book club. Why is that a good idea? Because the people there will most probably be into pottery/books, just like you, so you'll immediately have something to talk about. I find it easy to bond with people via the internet or the gym, because I'm really passionate about the internet-ing I do.

It's so important to have friends around you. I'm a firm believer that it's not necessary to have lots of friends; just a few really good ones is all you'll ever need.

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Switzerland On Film

Crans Montana by Olivia Bossert I was born and raised in Geneva, Switzerland. If you had asked me when I was 17 where I would spend my life, I would have told you Geneva. I didn't ever expect to settle down so well in the UK, but for the time being, this is where I'm happy. I try to make a point of going back home at least every two-three months; I can't go much longer than that without seeing my family! I was so excited to go back for Christmas and spend two weeks with them. I was able to relax, zone out of work (to an extent) and go on long, beautiful walks.

Although there was a distinct lack of snow for the season, we managed to go skiing once, and it was so much fun! I decided whilst I was packing to only pack my film camera. I have a terrible tendency of not picking up my analogue camera enough, despite it being the camera which produces my favourite imagery. Perhaps it's the lazy person in me, but I'm so happy it was all I had on me, because I got some beautiful shots out of it.

I'm going back home in February for a long weekend, so I'll definitely be taking more photos whilst we're there... of snow... I hope.

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When You Burn Out

Sunset Fields Last week I had a bit of a burn out. Atlas was doing really well (but requiring a lot of time), work was busy, and I was feeling overwhelmed. I've always got so much on my mind between my part time job and Atlas that sometimes it becomes all too much. I usually don't realise I'm exhausted until I hit full on burn out. This is how it goes down:

  1. Olivia comes home grumpy
  2. Olivia begins to cry about something stupid
  3. Olivia eats a lot of dark chocolate
  4. Olivia goes to sleep
  5. Olivia wakes up still tired, and decides that actually, Olivia needs to have a day off
  6. Olivia takes the day off, feels a bit guilty about it, but actually feels great

All truth. That's how it pans out. It's a brutal experience. *Sorry Tom.*

I'm working on taking things easier, and allowing myself at least one day off a week. It's easier said than done; when you run your own business that you're working really hard to build and improve on, it's always on your mind. Work in progress is better than nothing though, right?

So what do I do when I'm having some time off (or just a bit of a more relaxed day)?

  • Go for a walk. Theres so many places to go in Cornwall that theres never "no where to go." Getting fresh air does me so much good, and really lets me clear my head.
  • Read a magazine. I know, I know, this may sound like work because my job is running a magazine... but theres nothing more relaxing than sitting down with a new magazine and getting absorbed by beautiful images and words.
  • Watch TV. I don't do this a lot, but I make sure to sit down and watch The Great British Bake Off every Wednesday night. I can't watch TV in the day time, because I feel like I'm wasting valuable time to be doing something else (there I go again! work work work) but after dinner in the evenings, it calms me right down.
  • Work out. Most people will say I'm nuts for finding a work out relaxing, but it's actually one thing I find helps the most. When I had said burn out I mentioned earlier, I has a personal training session booked in for that day. Needless to say I didn't feel like going, but once I was there and we got going, I felt revived. It was probably that session which gave me back my energy!
  • Bake. There's a reason this blog exists!
  • Meditation. I have a history of panic attacks (more on that another day), and did a few sessions of hypnotherapy to help me get over them. It was after doing these and noticing how big a difference it made that I began to meditate. I can't say I do it a lot, but when I'm feeling really panicky or stressed and need to calm right down, I find a guided meditation on Youtube, or use the app Headspace. 
  • Call my mum. Talking to someone about how you're feeling, or what ever it is that's stressing you out is really helpful.
  • Write. I never used to enjoy writing, and I don't think I'm particularly good at it, but there's something quite therapeutic about it (this isn't a break through by the way, theres a reason people have kept diaries for centuries). This blog stems from that.

What do you do when you need to relax? Let me know if you have any advice for me!

 

An Escape to Porthtowan

Porthtowan "Oh my god! Sun! Everybody get outside while you can!" said every single person in Cornwall last weekend.

As I've mentioned before, I love living in Cornwall. However, it does rain quite a lot. It's England, so it's bound to! Poldark makes Cornwall look like it's 30°C all year long, but trust me people, it's not. So when it is sunny, everyone makes a run for it. Plans are changed, essential admin gets pushed aside and we head to the beach. And why wouldn't we? It's so beautiful!

Tom and I had never been to Porthtowan before, so we grabbed our trusty Cornwall Walking Guide and headed out. We started in the village and made our way up towards the coastal path. As we began walking up to the cliffs, we were met by some rather lovely Shetland ponies. The views along the coastal path are beautiful, and you can see the whole coastline so clearly. We thought about walking all the way to Godrevy, but thought we should avoid getting lost and stick to our guide book's advice.

After about an hour on the coastal path, we turned down towards Tehidy Woods. I can't say that Tehidy was as inspiring to me as the coastline, but I definitely still enjoyed it. We agreed though that next time we go, we will stick to the coast path and  make our way to Godrevy!

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A Walk in Devoran

A Walk in Devoran Living in Cornwall means we can pretty much get up and go somewhere beautiful any day of the week. The weather might not always be great (it's still England!) but when it is, it makes it all so worth while. Last weekend, (while nursing a pretty sore wisdom tooth) Tom and I thought we'd take advantage of the nice weather we were having and go for a walk in Devoran; a spot I'd not yet explored. Only about a 15 minute drive from Falmouth, Devoran is a town located on the banks of the tidal Carnon River.

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We went at low tide, so there was barely any water in the river, but that didn't stop it being beautiful. When the tide is out like it was for us, you can walk along the (muddy) river bed. There are lots of cute stepping stones laid out, which makes the walk good fun! But if the tide is in (which I think would be even more stunning), or you don't fancy getting muddy shoes, there is a foot and cycle path.

All along the river banks there are benches with great views. We're a bit sad in that we quite like to take a book or magazine out with us, and be very antisocial and sit on a bench and read. It makes passers by feel super uncomfortable as they try and be quiet as they walk by, or look at the view we're sat at.

There are so many little spots like this, spread out all around the county, and in the 5 years I've lived here, I've yet to explore most of them. I'm definitely going to go back to Devoran on a day when the tide is higher, and my tooth is hurting less, so that I can enjoy it a bit more!

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